I AM
A 21 years old average
looking girl – not very intelligent or out of the world beautiful – NEVER had a
boyfriend ever and I give tuition's to small kids.
SO ONE DAY
I meet this very ordinary
looking guy at a park for my evening walk – got talking to him- he was really sweet,
nice and caring. A friendship realized and so our tale began-exchanged numbers-
Facebook friends – Whats App/ on the phone all day till we would meet each day
at the park.
I ABSOLUTELY ENJOYED HIS
COMPANY
he was witty, intelligent,
funny… gave me a lot of attention and showered me with compliments all the
time-- I began to feel wonderful about myself. Oh! I loved talking to him - had
him in my thoughts 24/7. If he would not call -I would miss him. So I didn't
just fall in love with, I was addicted to him.
HE HAD TOLD ME THAT HE LOVED ME
in all possible direct and
indirect ways and I was the right girl for him and I told him that I felt the
same. It felt special to be loved and to be told that I WAS THE ONE FOR HIM. I developed
a new radiant self-image from the power that comes from being desired. We soon
crossed all the parameters of a love relationship and love made my days
special.
ON PARALLEL LINES
I joined this belly dance class - Belly dance
Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni with my sister as my mom wanted me to accompany
her. The class was amazing and my
teacher Ritambhara was encouraging and always made me feel so good. Life felt
complete and perfect! He and my teacher had completely uplifted my spirit and energy
and had become the most meaningful people in my life. Initially, not joined
belly dance on my own accord, but had begun to like the dance form a lot.
AFTER 3 MONTHS-
this 28 year old guy CHANGED....
He would not give me the
same attention, his calls became less frequent and he was drifting away. I
started to feel low. The only thing that kept me going was my belly dance
class. So I kept going and I kept giving tuitions believing him when he said he
was busy.- waited endlessly for his calls- Missed him like crazy and felt awful
and depressed that he was too busy to be with me .
WHY WAS THIS GUY NOT SO BUSY BEFORE????
I wanted to make our relationship
work without letting him go and so I thought the best thing is to get
married to him. I was certain he would accept without a doubt as he always
said I was the perfect girl for him. And so I asked him to meet me and after a
lot of persuasion he agreed, though implying that he was sparing time with a
lot of difficulty.
SO FINALLY WE MET AGAIN
And i told him that we have gone pretty far in
our relationship and now we should marry. And to that – his facial reaction was
so weird- like everything he had said to me before had no value. He remained quiet while i kept asking him
excitedly that wasn't marriage our best answer to be together since he was so
busy. But he maintained silence and instead looked like I was pressurizing him.
But I couldn’t let my hopes die so quickly and so I waited, requesting him to
please say something…and so he said,
‘ I
DO LOVE YOU BABES AND YOU ARE REALLY THE PERFECT GIRL IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. I
LIKE BEING WITH YOU AND
I DO
LOVE YOU BUT SWEETHEART MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING ELSE TOTALLY, AND I DON’T LOOK AS
YOU AS MY WIFE..REALLY…’
I was
dumfounded and I could not understand that answer, forget understand, I could
not relate to it. It made zero sense, WHY WOULD A GUY LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND NOT
WANT TO MARRY YOU????? LOVE AND MARRIAGE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS????
REALLY??????
I asked him why but he had no answer, he just said that for
right now let’s just see how it goes and we shall see later on how he feels
about the subject. If he feels like getting married to me then he will, or else
he won’t but he loves me for now and advised me to live in the moment.
I WAS SHATTERED AND HEARTBROKEN.
I cried all night, the next day and after that
- didn’t want to speak to him and wanted to at the same time. I didn't even go
to my belly dance class for 3 weeks until my belly dance teacher called me and
asked me what happened??? I told her I had a personal issue and was not in the
right frame of mind. She said to me…
’ THE WORLD IS A VERY BIG PLACE AND IF YOU
FIND NEGATIVITY IN ONE PLACE, IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND LOOK FURTHER
BEYOND …THIS NEGATIVITY WILL BURY AND YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS AGAIN, WHATEVER
THE CASE MAYBE. I DON’T WANT TO KNOW YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE BUT THIS IS YOUR SOLUTION
AND YOUR FIRST STEP IS TO COME FOR THE CLASS…so please come’
WOW!!….she didn't
even know what happened but I liked what she said. So I decided to attend the
class.
She then announced a belly dance show in
which I could perform and so I accepted to and I got busy gearing up for the
show.
She told me whatever the problem maybe, I
should divert my mind and not think about the problem at all..i did exactly
that and continued to go to class and gear up for the performance.
His calls had completely
stopped and he disappeared from my life. I didn’t have the heart to call him
either as he had abused my uplifted self-image created at one time by himself.
The show finally happened
and my performance changed my life. My friends and family who came to watch me
were amazed at my performance. I had fallen in love with belly dance and myself
and discovered a lot of potential in me. I felt stronger as a person and more
assertive about myself. The compliments I got made me feel beautiful and
self-worthy.
And so I realized what happened with me back
then was a FRAUD.
A GUY WHO TELLS YOU EVERYTHING AND MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU
ARE THE RIGHT ONE FOR HIM, AND SAYS HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU ALL THE TIME AND
SAYS IT IN AN INDIRECT WAY THAT HE WILL MARRY WITHOUT USING THE WORD MARRIAGE –
BEWARE OF THEM.
Clarify right at the start what it is really
and I guess don’t allow yourself to go that far until its official and he wants
to marry you. I guess I was really a DUMB BLONDE back then but the classes
changed me and helped me keep my sanity.
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