Thursday 14 April 2016

Ritambhara Sahni - MY FAILED LOVE STORY.




I AM
A 21 years old average looking girl – not very intelligent or out of the world beautiful – NEVER had a boyfriend ever and I give tuition's to small kids.

SO ONE DAY
I meet this very ordinary looking guy at a park for my evening walk – got talking to him- he was really sweet, nice and caring. A friendship realized and so our tale began-exchanged numbers- Facebook friends – Whats App/ on the phone all day till we would meet each day at the park.

I ABSOLUTELY ENJOYED HIS COMPANY
he was witty, intelligent, funny… gave me a lot of attention and showered me with compliments all the time-- I began to feel wonderful about myself. Oh! I loved talking to him - had him in my thoughts 24/7. If he would not call -I would miss him. So I didn't just fall in love with, I was addicted to him.

 HE HAD TOLD ME THAT HE LOVED ME
in all possible direct and indirect ways and I was the right girl for him and I told him that I felt the same. It felt special to be loved and to be told that I WAS THE ONE FOR HIM. I developed a new radiant self-image from the power that comes from being desired. We soon crossed all the parameters of a love relationship and love made my days special.

ON PARALLEL LINES
 I joined this belly dance class - Belly dance Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni with my sister as my mom wanted me to accompany her.  The class was amazing and my teacher Ritambhara was encouraging and always made me feel so good. Life felt complete and perfect! He and my teacher had completely uplifted my spirit and energy and had become the most meaningful people in my life. Initially, not joined belly dance on my own accord, but had begun to like the dance form a lot.

AFTER 3 MONTHS-
this 28 year old guy CHANGED....
He would not give me the same attention, his calls became less frequent and he was drifting away. I started to feel low. The only thing that kept me going was my belly dance class. So I kept going and I kept giving tuitions believing him when he said he was busy.- waited endlessly for his calls- Missed him like crazy and felt awful and depressed that he was too busy to be with me .

 WHY WAS THIS GUY NOT SO BUSY BEFORE????
 I wanted to make our relationship work without letting him go and so I thought the best thing is to get married to him. I was certain he would accept without a doubt as he always said I was the perfect girl for him. And so I asked him to meet me and after a lot of persuasion he agreed, though implying that he was sparing time with a lot of difficulty.

SO FINALLY WE MET AGAIN
 And i told him that we have gone pretty far in our relationship and now we should marry. And to that – his facial reaction was so weird- like everything he had said to me before had no value.  He remained quiet while i kept asking him excitedly that wasn't marriage our best answer to be together since he was so busy. But he maintained silence and instead looked like I was pressurizing him. But I couldn’t let my hopes die so quickly and so I waited, requesting him to please say something…and so he said, 
I DO LOVE YOU BABES AND YOU ARE REALLY THE PERFECT GIRL IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. I LIKE BEING WITH YOU AND
 I DO LOVE YOU BUT SWEETHEART MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING ELSE TOTALLY, AND I DON’T LOOK AS YOU AS MY WIFE..REALLY…’

I was dumfounded and I could not understand that answer, forget understand, I could not relate to it. It made zero sense, WHY WOULD A GUY LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND NOT WANT TO MARRY YOU????? LOVE AND MARRIAGE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS???? REALLY??????
I asked him why but he had no answer, he just said that for right now let’s just see how it goes and we shall see later on how he feels about the subject. If he feels like getting married to me then he will, or else he won’t but he loves me for now and advised me to live in the moment.

 I WAS SHATTERED AND HEARTBROKEN.
 I cried all night, the next day and after that - didn’t want to speak to him and wanted to at the same time. I didn't even go to my belly dance class for 3 weeks until my belly dance teacher called me and asked me what happened??? I told her I had a personal issue and was not in the right frame of mind. She said to me…
’ THE WORLD IS A VERY BIG PLACE AND IF YOU FIND NEGATIVITY IN ONE PLACE, IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND LOOK FURTHER BEYOND …THIS NEGATIVITY WILL BURY AND YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS AGAIN, WHATEVER THE CASE MAYBE. I DON’T WANT TO KNOW YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE BUT THIS IS YOUR SOLUTION AND YOUR FIRST STEP IS TO COME FOR THE CLASS…so please come’ 
WOW!!….she didn't even know what happened but I liked what she said. So I decided to attend the class.

She then announced a belly dance show in which I could perform and so I accepted to and I got busy gearing up for the show.
 She told me whatever the problem maybe, I should divert my mind and not think about the problem at all..i did exactly that and continued to go to class and gear up for the performance.

His calls had completely stopped and he disappeared from my life. I didn’t have the heart to call him either as he had abused my uplifted self-image created at one time by himself.
The show finally happened and my performance changed my life. My friends and family who came to watch me were amazed at my performance. I had fallen in love with belly dance and myself and discovered a lot of potential in me. I felt stronger as a person and more assertive about myself. The compliments I got made me feel beautiful and self-worthy.

 And so I realized what happened with me back then was a FRAUD. 

A GUY WHO TELLS YOU EVERYTHING AND MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE THE RIGHT ONE FOR HIM, AND SAYS HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU ALL THE TIME AND SAYS IT IN AN INDIRECT WAY THAT HE WILL MARRY WITHOUT USING THE WORD MARRIAGE – BEWARE OF THEM.
 Clarify right at the start what it is really and I guess don’t allow yourself to go that far until its official and he wants to marry you. I guess I was really a DUMB BLONDE back then but the classes changed me and helped me keep my sanity.


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